Accused of bullying?
Being accused of bullying can be upsetting and comes as a shock for some people. It’s important to be open to feedback from others, and to be prepared to change your behaviour.
If someone approaches you about your behaviour, try to remain calm. Listen carefully and ask questions if you're unclear about anything that has caused offence or you think there's been a misunderstanding.
Apologise and – here's the most important bit – stop the behaviour that's causing the issue. You might think it's 'only a joke' or that the other person should be able to 'handle it', but the reality is that you're causing offence and distress.
If you believe you're being unfairly accused, you should discuss this with your manager or HR officer. In many cases an informal discussion between you, the person making the allegation and a third party will resolve the issue.
Being accused of bullying can be stressful and may affect your health and wellbeing. Talking to someone confidentially can help. Employee Assistance Programs (if your workplace has one) are a good place to start, or check in with a counsellor or your GP.
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